Turning your house into an unauthorized resort is not a solution. If costs are still too much, you can say to your invited guests, “I’d love to have you stay, but I can’t offer meals,” and hope that they have the grace to take you out instead.

The letter writer didn’t buy a house in a resort area just to host their friends and family all the time. Dear Miss Manners: I am a young adult who bought a home in one of the highest-cost resort areas of the country — a purchase that strains me financially,

While I love my friends and family, I have been astounded by the number of people who came out of the woodwork, asking to come visit, when they learned where I lived. It’s been everyone from distant college acquaintances to cousins who rarely spoke to me before.

I am a young adult who bought a home in one of the highest-cost resort areas of the country -- a purchase that strains me financially, but is well worth it. While I love my friends and family, I have been astounded by the number of people who came out of the woodwork,