DEAR ERIC: Could you settle an argument? My husband has a friend and coworker who he has known for many years. I’ve met his wife a few times and although we are friendly, we’ve never done anything just the four of us.

It’s one thing to have friends of one’s own. That’s normal and healthy. It’s quite another thing to have friends who are actively anti-social to one’s wife. The question you’re asking your husband is “why is this OK with you?” Even if it seems inconsequential to him, he should recognize the way this whole situation made you feel.

A couple was going to invite the letter writer and husband to their party – but then other friends said don’t.

My husband is good enough to help them out whenever they need it, but we’re not good enough friends to be invited to a party?

In today's Asking Eric column, R. Eric Thomas responds to someone who is hurt that her husband's friend and wife don't like her.

A few months ago, the wife had a huge birthday party at their home to show off their backyard, and we were not invited. A few weeks after the party, her husband told my husband that we were originally on the invite list but then removed prior to the party.